Are Your Friends Your Future?

I grew up in a working-class small town in upstate New York (the huge part of New York state that isn’t New York City. I’m a bit touchy about this.) When I was in high school, academic rigor was the exception rather than the rule, sports were an obsession, and blending into the crowd was the primary goal of most of my peers. I was a teenager who didn’t particularly like sports but loved do…

Be Your Own Cheerleader

Imagine you’ve been dating someone for a while. Things are going well. You progress from casual dates to some sleep overs. While spending more time with this person, you discover that they have a teensy-weensy tendency to find fault with everything you do. You wake up each morning and this person immediately starts questioning and criticizing you. “Are you sure you want to wear that? It makes…

Live Imperfectly, On Purpose: A Life of Daring Greatly

“Live imperfectly. On purpose.” - A Life In Progress We’re well acquainted with the pitfalls of living in a social media-saturated world. We know the collection of curated snapshots we see on Facebook and Instagram doesn’t necessarily reflect a life well-lived, simply a life well-presented. Still, it presents a challenge. The idealistic images we see can work their way into our emotiona…

Lost Your Mojo? It’s Hiding Under Your Blankie

This is the story of Ms. Crankypants. Ms. Crankypants is actually a lovely person. She’s kind and generous. She’s a devoted wife and caretaker. She’s conscientious and reliable. Unless. More and more frequently, Ms. Crankypants snaps at her husband for no good reason. She forgets important appointments or tasks. She frequently loses her patience at work, and just the…

​The Comparison Game: How to Avoid the Rabbit Hole

So, I’m going to talk about my lawn. (I swear I’m going somewhere with this…hang with me.) Our lawn must be the ugliest in the neighborhood. It looks neglected though we’ve tried to improve it for years. It was in bad shape already when we bought our house, plus we have two dogs who need space to run. This combination makes it nearly impossible to grow grass. Patches of sparse greenery…

Milk and Cookies

“Think what a better world it would be if we all – the whole world – had cookies and milk about three o'clock every afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap.” – Robert Fulghum Last night I dreamt about being back in kindergarten. Maybe it’s because I’m getting older and enjoy thinking back to the comforts of childhood. Or maybe it’s because I’m a teacher who’s ab…