Setting Boundaries: Or, How to (Almost) Not Graduate From College

I was a music major in college. In my junior year I played in an orchestra led by a revered conductor. This revered instructor also had a habit of verbally abusing students in rehearsal. At one point the evil eye of his bad temper focused on me. I made a mistake. He hurled insults at me in front of the entire ensemble. The next day, I did what I thought I should do: I went back to rehearsal…

Tired of the Hustle? Trade Rigidity for Generosity

We live in a hustle culture. This culture pressures us to work too much, have unrealistic expectations, and project a relentless “can do!” attitude whether we’re feeling energized or not. “If you’ve fallen prey to the hustle culture, you have bought into the idea that it’s cool to be ‘always-on’ and to push yourself to the max each of the 1,440 minutes of the day,” says Psychotherapist Bryan…

Clear Mental Clutter: The Power of Your Written Word

“A word after a word after a word is power.” - Margaret Atwood The act of putting pen to paper has become just a practical tool for many of us. We might scribble out a grocery or to-do list, but when it comes to communicating important things many of us prefer text and email. In a fast-paced world, the act of handwriting seems cumbersome. It takes more time than typing, and handwritten mes…

Free to Flourish: Unload Emotional Baggage

It’s happened again. You got pressured into doing something that you really didn’t want to do. Or you found yourself trying to force something to happen that you know is NOT going to happen. (You know this because you’ve failed to make it happen the other hundred times you tried.) We all fall prey to misguided beliefs about about how we should spend our time and make choices we later reg…

More Space: How to Increase Joy in an Overstimulating World

Life is crowded. It’s crowded with too much information, too much stimulation and too many responsibilities. To live with a sense of joy and purpose, we must effectively navigate an overstimulating environment so we can stay focused on what’s most important. We must make sure our to-do list aligns with what’s truly meaningful so we don’t become sidetracked with unimportant tasks on a regular…

To Change Your Life, Change Your Environment

Some people enthusiastically set goals in January while others avoid New Year’s resolutions altogether. Regardless of which camp you fall into, cultural milestones like the dawn of a new decade tend to get us thinking about our priorities. For me, the arrival of 2020 has driven home the fact that time is passing at an alarming rate. (Y2K was twenty years ago? Seriously??) In response, I’m ear…