Finding Joy in a Time of Uncertainty

It's not like things weren't a bit nuts already. Years of exhausting political unrest. Massive fires in Australia. Nuclear posturing. Economic uncertainty. The list goes on. Now, a global health crisis has been labeled a pandemic and has upended the reassuring rhythm of daily life. Feeling stressed out and uncertain is more than understandable. Our concerns ar…

Free to Flourish: Unload Emotional Baggage

It’s happened again. You got pressured into doing something that you really didn’t want to do. Or you found yourself trying to force something to happen that you know is NOT going to happen. (You know this because you’ve failed to make it happen the other hundred times you tried.) We all fall prey to misguided beliefs about about how we should spend our time and make choices we later reg…

Forget Your Closet. Does Your To-Do List Spark Joy?

With the dawn of 2020, many of us have begun the popular New Year’s tradition of clearing clutter and tidying up our homes. Target will soon sell out of storage bins and thrift stores will be overrun with donated items. If you’re like me, the idea of clutter-clearing, while appealing, doesn’t exactly feel life-changing. Sure, clean closets and organized drawers are great, but what you really…

January: A Cozy Month of Renewal

It’s tempting to view January as the cold and dreary month that follows December, most notable for that fact that it is devoid of the excitement, decorations, and festivities of the holidays. But over the years I’ve learned to take my cues from mother nature. I now appreciate January as a month that provides a unique opportunity to engage in cozy activities, self-reflection, and recalib…

Are Your Friends Your Future?

I grew up in a working-class small town in upstate New York (the huge part of New York state that isn’t New York City. I’m a bit touchy about this.) When I was in high school, academic rigor was the exception rather than the rule, sports were an obsession, and blending into the crowd was the primary goal of most of my peers. I was a teenager who didn’t particularly like sports but loved do…

Be Your Own Cheerleader

Imagine you’ve been dating someone for a while. Things are going well. You progress from casual dates to some sleep overs. While spending more time with this person, you discover that they have a teensy-weensy tendency to find fault with everything you do. You wake up each morning and this person immediately starts questioning and criticizing you. “Are you sure you want to wear that? It makes…