Finding Joy in a Time of Uncertainty

It's not like things weren't a bit nuts already. Years of exhausting political unrest. Massive fires in Australia. Nuclear posturing. Economic uncertainty. The list goes on. Now, a global health crisis has been labeled a pandemic and has upended the reassuring rhythm of daily life. Feeling stressed out and uncertain is more than understandable. Our concerns ar…

Tired of the Hustle? Trade Rigidity for Generosity

We live in a hustle culture. This culture pressures us to work too much, have unrealistic expectations, and project a relentless “can do!” attitude whether we’re feeling energized or not. “If you’ve fallen prey to the hustle culture, you have bought into the idea that it’s cool to be ‘always-on’ and to push yourself to the max each of the 1,440 minutes of the day,” says Psychotherapist Bryan…

Are Your Friends Your Future?

I grew up in a working-class small town in upstate New York (the huge part of New York state that isn’t New York City. I’m a bit touchy about this.) When I was in high school, academic rigor was the exception rather than the rule, sports were an obsession, and blending into the crowd was the primary goal of most of my peers. I was a teenager who didn’t particularly like sports but loved do…

Be Your Own Cheerleader

Imagine you’ve been dating someone for a while. Things are going well. You progress from casual dates to some sleep overs. While spending more time with this person, you discover that they have a teensy-weensy tendency to find fault with everything you do. You wake up each morning and this person immediately starts questioning and criticizing you. “Are you sure you want to wear that? It makes…

Lost Your Mojo? It’s Hiding Under Your Blankie

This is the story of Ms. Crankypants. Ms. Crankypants is actually a lovely person. She’s kind and generous. She’s a devoted wife and caretaker. She’s conscientious and reliable. Unless. More and more frequently, Ms. Crankypants snaps at her husband for no good reason. She forgets important appointments or tasks. She frequently loses her patience at work, and just the…

​The Comparison Game: How to Avoid the Rabbit Hole

So, I’m going to talk about my lawn. (I swear I’m going somewhere with this…hang with me.) Our lawn must be the ugliest in the neighborhood. It looks neglected though we’ve tried to improve it for years. It was in bad shape already when we bought our house, plus we have two dogs who need space to run. This combination makes it nearly impossible to grow grass. Patches of sparse greenery…